You’re Only Too Old If You Think You Are

When I was in college I began taking ballet classes. Everyone laughed at me, because I was “too old” to start dancing. Ballet was for children or aspiring professionals, not adults who were stuck with the freshman fifteen. I ignored the naysayers and went to ballet class anyway. Funny, everyone stopped laughing when they saw the results.

After enjoying a rewarding career as a respiratory therapist, I decided to go back to school and pursue a career in physical therapy. Once again the naysayers came out in full force. The application process is too long and arduous. The competition is too fierce. I wasn’t smart enough. And my personal favorite—I was too old.

And yet again, I ignored the naysayers and went through the grueling application process. I graduated from Colorado University with my Master’s Degree in physical therapy just three months shy of my 40th birthday. Apparently I wasn’t too old.

A few years later, at the tender young age of 47, I began studying an ancient Japanese martial art. Guess what my friends told me? Yep, you’re right! I was too old. but by now, they also included the phrase “and too frail.” Oh, really? Ten years later I became my teacher’s first female black belt. In the entire 20 year history of the school, no woman had ever received such a high rank. Hmm. Not only was I not too old, I wasn’t too frail, either.

Then, at the age of 58, I decided to listen to everyone’s sage advice and start engaging in more age-appropriate activities. But, I think I’ll save that juicy little tidbit for another day. The main point I wanted to make is that you’re only too old if you think you are. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Does it?

Age Is a Beautiful Thing

Age is a beautiful thing. Or, at least it can be, as long as you have the right attitude. I recently saw an advertisement for a clinic specializing in “Age Management Medicine.” Yikes! As if getting older is a disease state that needs to be managed. That certainly puts a negative spin on getting older. It’s also ridiculous, and it simply isn’t true.

What we believe is what we become. What we tell ourselves and what we hear from other people is what we eventually believe, even if it conflicts with our inherent belief system. I personally believe that we can all be fit, healthy, and vibrant, in every stage of life. Because what we believe is what we become.

It all begins with the right mindset. Staying positive, and blocking out some of the negative messages we hear from society, the media, even our friends and family is a great place to start. And pay attention to the people around you who are fabulous examples and role models that age isn’t something to be “managed.” It’s a beautiful process to be celebrated and enjoyed.

My favorite ballet teacher and mentor is still going strong and teaching six days a week at 71. Her energy and enthusiasm is boundless. I have a long time friend who bellies up to the barre with me at least four days a week for a professional level ballet class. She is 81, and she is amazing! My vibrant, energetic, and beautiful Aunt Stella was recently featured in her local newspaper for her remarkable accomplishments in bowling. She is 89 years young. Her youthful vitality is delightful to see, and she is an incredible role model. Not just for me, but for everyone who meets her.

Age is a number, not a disease. Getting older is inevitable. Getting old is a choice. At least, that’s what I believe. And, what we believe is what we become.